What Are You Willing to Struggle For

What Are You Willing to Struggle ForWhat Are You Willing to Struggle ForBecause if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs.A happy Fourth of JulyAdvice from Theodore Roosevelt on July 4thIt is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause who, at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.That was Theodore Roosevelt speaking at the Sorbonne in 1910 and I run this prozentanteil every Independence Day because it inspires us.Speaking of national heroes, I dropped by the Met, and was inspired by the new setting for the famous Washington crossing the Delaware.Its majestic.Depicting the night of December 25, 1776, Leutzes painting captures a desperate General Washington pushing his luck after a miserable first year in the field against the British. The lunacy of the raid - chunks of ice the size of Volkswagens clogged a turbulent Delaware River - is somewhat forgotten in the haze of later victories.A general facing winter without victories, armies, or money, is a general facing the hangman, and Washington knew it. The codeword that night was Victory or Death.Washington had to decide what he wanted to do at a moment of the lowest lows for him and his team.I was searching for a way to explain it better and stumbled across these words from Mark MansonEverybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room.Everyone would like that - its easy to like that.If I ask you, What do you want out of life? and you say something like, I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like, its so ubiquitous that it doesnt even mean anything.A more interesting question, a question that perhaps youve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence - but not everyone wants to suffer through 60-hour work weeks, long commutes, obnoxious paperwork, to navigate arbitrary corporate hierarchies and the blank confines of cubicle hell. People want to be rich without the risk, with out the sacrifice, without the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth.Everybody wants to have great sex and an awesome relationship - but not everyone is willing to go through the tough conversations, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings and the emotional psychodrama to get there. And so they settle. They settle and wonder What if? for years and years and until the question morphs from What if? into Was that it? And when the lawyers go home and the alimony check is in the mail they say, What was that for? if not for their lowered standards and expectations 20 years prior, then what for?Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life.At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. Its negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get o ut of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings were willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.People want an amazing physique. But you dont end up with one unless you legitimately appreciate the pain and physical stress that comes with living inside a gym for hour upon hour, unless you love calculating and calibrating the food you eat, planning your life out in tiny plate-sized portions.People want to start their own business or become financially independent. But you dont end up a successful entrepreneur unless you find a way to appreciate the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures, and working insane hours on something you have no idea whether will be successful or not.People want a partner, a spouse. But you dont end up attracting someone amazing without appreciating the emotional turbulence that comes with weathering rejections, building the sexual tension that never gets released, and staring blankly at a phone that never rings. Its part of the game of love. You cant win if you dont play.What determines your success isnt What do you want to enjoy? The question is, What pain do you want to sustain? The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.Theres a lot of crappy advice out there that says, Youve just got to want it enoughEverybody wants something. And everybody wants something enough. They just arent aware of what it is they want, or rather, what they want enough.Because if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs. If you want the beach body, you have to want the sweat, the soreness, the early mornings, and the hunger pangs. If you want the yacht, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business moves, and the possibility of pissing off a person or ten thousand.If you find y ourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isnt what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you dont actually want it at all.Sometimes I ask people, How do you choose to suffer? These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You cant have a pain-free life. It cant all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately thats the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?That answer will actually get you somewhere. Its the question that can change your life. Its what makes me me and you you. Its what defines us and sepa rates us and ultimately brings us together.Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.This is not a call for willpower or grit. This is not another admonishment of no pain, no gain.This is the fruchtwein simple and basic component of life our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.On this anniversary of our struggle for independence, may you find yourself struggling with all the right things.

Four Ways to Boost Your Job Search This Summer

Four Ways to Boost Your Job Search This SummerFour Ways to Boost Your Job Search This SummerKeep your job search on track and still have fun this summer.It can be difficult to keep your head in the job-search game when the weather is warm, and job applications are competing against barbecues and road trips for calendar space.If you can get past these distractions, summer can be a great time to kick your job search into high gear. While your competition is busy on playing on the beach, take advantage of this opportunity to move your job search efforts ahead.Follow the four strategies below to get a head start on your search before fall.Plan ahead to stay on trackBetween juggling vacation plans, your kids summer day camp and work, your schedule will be packed during the summer months.Take a look at your calendar now and prioritize your activities. When and where can you invest time in your job search?Set a few goals on a weekly or monthly basis to keep your search on track.Optimize you r summer readingWhether your goal is to get promoted or find a new job, the summer can be a great time to fill in a knowledge gap thats holding you back. Exchange your usual summer reading for a book that will help you get ahead in your career. Check out The Personal MBA, Eventual Millionaire, and 800 CEO Read for book recommendations on everything from the psychology of sales to running more effective meetings.Pitch while you playYou dont have to ditch your summer plans to stay on top of your job search. Use each baseball game, barbecue and beach party as an opportunity to network. Be sure to modify your elevator pitch to suit the situation and audience. Additionally, take advantage of lighter workloads and summer Fridays by scheduling informational interviews with valuable networking contacts.Mobilize your job searchIve said it once and Ill say it again the job search is a full-time job. Luckily, we live in a time where its possible to work from almost anywhere, at any time. If yo ure planning to be away from your home office more than usual this summer, mobilize your job search. Download apps that will help you manage your network, access your resume and vet potential opportunities while on-the-go. For example, Ladders app,allows you to identify job matches, uncover new opportunities and scout out the competition before you apply.

Leaders Sometimes Let Others Lead

Leaders Sometimes Let Others LeadLeaders Sometimes Let Others LeadLeaders lead. We all know that. We always see them step up and effortlessly take charge. Look a little more closely at a good leader you know and you will notice there are times when these good leaders dont lead they let others lead. They become followers. They become followers who are every bit as good at following as they are at leading when its time for them to lead. When Leaders Lead When leaders lead, they share their vision and their excitement. They motivate their followers with their passion. Good leaders lead by example and provide those under them a picture of what is possible. When you see a leader step back and give someone else the opportunity to lead, its usually of one of a few solid reasonstraining,delegation, or expertise. Training Leaders develop their gruppe members. They help the gruppe members gain new skills to help the team increase its ability to reach the leaders goal. One important ski ll the leader teaches the team is leadership. And, oddly, another is followership. One way you give someone an opportunity to learn and improve their leadership skill is by letting them lead. If the leader always leads, no one else on the team will ever have the chance to practice leading and they wont improve in that key skill. So when the leader steps back and lets someone else take over it helps them both. You can call Bob into your office and tell him, I want you to run the meeting this afternoon. Ill be there if you have any questions, but its your show. The hard part for the manager is letting Bob run the meeting. If there are questions during the meeting, they should be directed to Bob, not the boss. If someone asks the boss something, he/she has to defer to Bob. The leader should only answer the questions from Bob. This shows the team that Bob is the leader. Or you call Maria and tell her, I want you to head up the new project. Here are your resources. This is the schedule. Heres what I expect. Keep me posted and see me if you have any issues. Then get out of the way and let her lead the project team. I have led many community tafelgeschirr projects for previous employers so when my new employer was looking into such a project I was trying to figure out how I could make time to lead it. When one of the other employees, a person in an individual contributor role, stepped up and volunteered to lead the effort I was pleasedand relieved. I had discovered someone who might have some leadership talent I could help develop and I wouldnt have to expend the extra effort to lead the project. I could be a part of the team. I could be a good follower. And that is the second key skill a leader trains their team in followership. A good leader has good followers. Just as the leader has led by example and shown the team his/her vision and the picture of what is possible, the leader now shows the team, by example, what good followership is. In each of the three exampl es above, the leader has the opportunity to jump in and fix things, but thats not leadership and it is not followership. The leader has to know when to let the team member face some challenges in order to grow and improve their performance. By letting the others lead, the leader provides a great example of followership. It can be in the leaders group or in a different part of the organization. The leader trains team members every time he/she doesnt lead. Delegation When a leader delegates to one of their team members, that person has the opportunity to function in a leadership role. They get hands-on practice in leadership and get to improve their skill. If a leader is always the leader, they arent delegating. If they arent delegating, they are missing a critical opportunity to train their team members. Expertise Another time when leaders dont lead is when they recognize that someone else has greater expertise in the subject matter. That someone could be another leader in th e organization or someone in a subordinate position. We needed musical entertainment for the annual company picnic. I have two people on my team who are musicians and have played professionally in the past. I gladly stepped aside and let them make the choices of what type of music to have, which musicians to hire, what sound equipment was needed, how to set up the stage, etc. Bottom Line It can be hard for a leader to not lead sometimes, but it is essential. It lets the leader improve his team and its members and makes it easier to achieve the goals. This doesnt mean you run away from a difficult situation and let someone else lead. It means when you are in charge, you let someone else be the leader.

Survey This is the best city to buy a house in this year

Survey This is the best city to buy a house in this yearSurvey This is the best city to buy a house in this yearNew WalletHub research shows thatFrisco, Texas is the best city to buy a home in this year, with a total score of 75.06 out of 100.The company looked at 300 cities in terms of affordability and economic environment, as well as real-estate market. Then it examined them in terms of 22 other factors before giving each city a score out of 100. WalletHub used information from the U.S. Census Bureau, among many other sources.The 10 best cities overall to buy a home in this yearDid yours make the cut?1) Frisco, TX total score of 75.062) McKinney, TX total score of 74.63) Allen, TX total score of 73.934) Santa Clara, CA total score of 73.795) Durham, NC total score of 72.456) Murfreesboro, TN total score of 72.47) Richardson, TX total score of 72.298) Seattle, WA total score of 72.169) Bellevue, WA total score of 72.1410) Denton, TX total score of 71.98Furthermore, here are the top 5 cities in terms of each size category (large cities, midsize cities and small cities).Greatest big cities to buy a homeThe population of each is more than 300,000.1) Seattle, WA total score of 72.162) Denver, CO total score of 70.163) Fort Worth, TX total score of 69.344) Aurora, CO total score of 68.865) Colorado Springs, CO total score of 68.12Greatest medium-sized cities to buy a homeThe population of each is 150,000 to 300,000.1) McKinney, TX total score of 74.602) Durham, NC total score of 72.453) Cary, NC total score of 69.394) Fort Collins, CO total score of 68.965) Boise, ID total score of 68.95Greatest small cities to buy a homeThe population of each is less than 150,000.1) Frisco, TX total score of 75.062) Allen, TX total score of 73.933) Santa Clara, CA total score of 73.794) Murfreesboro, TN total score of 72.405) Richardson, TX total score of 72.29How the cities compare to each otherThe infographic shows how they stack upThese are the signs of a good housing marketHo ward Ways, AICP, Associate prof and Program Director at Jefferson University, told WalletHub about the five biggest factors when taking a look at the best housing markets in a series of bullet points. He wrotePopulation growth Areas with a growing population will see an increased demand for housing.Rental vacancies Low vacancies signal a competitive market and a pent up demand for new units.Median household income High-income communities end to have a more disposable income to purchase the ancillary items related to housing furniture, household appliances, etc. and to pay for private school tuition in areas where public school performance is an issue.Days on the market Quicker sales means a competitive market and usually less available inventory.Amount of building permits issued Predictor of things to come more permits means more inventory coming online in the near future, he told the site.

New Ideas Into Maker Bullets Never Before Revealed

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The Downside Risk of Resume for Bank Tellers That No One Is Talking About

The Downside Risk of Resume for Bank Tellers That No One Is Talking About As a Bank Teller, you are going to be the very first field of contact between the bank and the customer. Tellers can be considered the surface of the bank since they are among the employees customers make contact with when they walk in the banking hall. Use the bank teller resumes found on the internet to create your resume so as to find a notion of the right format. Credit union tellers could possibly be asked how the help of a bank differ from credit unions and they ought to be ready to supply the appropriate answer. For you to be noticed by employers and given the chance for an interview, your resume needs to be compelling. In the same way, a resume objective is among the very first parts of information about you that a hiring manager sees. Lengthy resumes do not bring in the recruiters much and will likely be ignored. If You Read Nothing Else Today, Read This Report on Resume for Bank Tellers An i ndividual should be cautious to prevent common mistakes that will likely creep in while building a resume. If you believe youre ideal for the job, then you want to draw up a brilliant bank teller resume. Youve been slaving over your ideal bank teller resume for the previous five hours. Specifically, you mentioned needing a seasoned bank teller thats efficient but detailed, and has the capability to work immediately without supervision. The curriculum vitae was created to sell you. Producing your resume is crucial. Too many resumes are in reality wordy and difficult to check out. Alas, many resumes incorporate pre-assembled or inefficient words that dont add price. Tailoring your resume to suit a possible employer is just the same. Most companies utilize the incorrect performance metrics. Theres always a gimmick of some kind attached to free merchandise, completely free vitamins, totally free resumes and absolutely free anything. You should concentrate on customer service an d sales, on an excellent level ofcustomer satisfaction, and your abilities and abilities that will let you deliver that. The Resume for Bank Tellers Trap The bank teller position is just one of wonderful significance and responsibility. Landing a job for a bank teller is excellent as its respectable work with a good salary which requires no experience (although experience is fantastic too). Somewhere in their job description, the bank will probably list the kinds of qualities theyre searching for in a teller. While certain banks will be searching for certain specific qualities, there are a few of the general traits an employer may be searching for in a financial institution teller. No wonder a role of a bank teller is owned by the absolute most well-known careers in the usa, and that dozens of folks apply for each job opening in one of the big banking institutions. To put it differently it isnt challenging to discover what you ought to be getting paid as a teller. Instead, a ttempt to create quite a simple template for you bank teller resume to seem attractive and its also simpler to edit. Despite slow general job gain, tellers going into the field ought to be able to detect work because the occupation has high turnover, and that is going to create new openings.If youre trying to land a part in the high-energy, high-turnover food and beverage business, then you will want a resume that touts your previous experience and drives home your customer service abilities. You should bank on more than just your abilities and experience to have an amazing job. Possessing a Indeed Resume youre in a position to create your abilities and knowledge obvious to employers and supply them an effortless process to get in contact with you about relevant jobs. The majority of the technical skills can be quickly learned at work, so prior experience isnt required either.

Importance of Families Still Trumps Financial Perks

Importance of Families Still Trumps Financial Perks There is more reason than ever to consider work life balance as just as important of a factor as any other to retaining and attracting key employee talent. New York Lifes Keep Going Good Report finds that despite the fact that 71 percent of American workers reported that they would be happier with more pay, only a small portion would be willing to trade between their financial situation and their families. Most Americans wouldnt trade time with families even for a promised 50 percent pay raise. More than half (54 percent) would trade evenings off from work for such a pay increase, 45 percent would sacrifice time with friends, and 35 percent would trade away all of their vacation time, but only 11 percent would exchange time with their kids for the 50 percent increase.On an economic note, 90 percent of survey respondents reported that bills are on e of their primary obstacles keeping them from having a good life, 89 percent said a financially self-sufficient retirement would make living a good life easier, and 89 percent said protecting their families from an uncertain future would greatly contribute to their overall well being.Despite the impact of a tough economic environment and peoples conviction that life would be easier with more money, a 50% pay raise still didnt move the needle when it came to cutting down on time spent with family children and spouses. This is very telling about what Americans value, said Liz McCarthy, Senior Vice President and head of Corporate Communications, New York Life.